Wordless Wednesday (Snowy Fun Edition)

What they're saying, January 2012

Toby:

• Mom- "Maaaaahm! Maaaaahm!" when he wants my attention NOW, or at almost a whisper, when it's not so urgent, "mom, mom, mom".
• Dad- all sing songy, "Da-ahd, Daaaa-hdd" Dad looks at him, he smiles, Dad looks away "Da-ahd...."
• Apple- It was so funny when he was learning to say apple. Willow taught him, and they would repeat it back to each other as Toby perfected the pronunciation
• Ball
• Bib
• Hot
• Vrrroooommmm (driving cars and trains around)
• Night Night
• I-O is Willow. Melts my heart when he says it! So sweet.
• Uh-Oh
• Five (for high five, in his wispy voice says five? five? and holds up his hand)
  

He's getting pretty good at communicating in other ways too- he points and grunts a lot, he opens his mouth so wide that he can't even open his eyes when he wants a bite of food or a drink, nearly rips the neck of my shirt when he wants milk and the latest : shaking his head no. He shakes no A LOT.


Willow:

• 2 more minutes! - when she doesn't want to leave what she's doing, or go to bed she just wants "2 more minutes!".
• People she really likes are her cousins. If they are not really her cousins, I correct her and tell her that they are friends. And then she calls her cousins her friends.
  
• She's figuring out words for feelings lately. I keep hearing "you're hurting my feelings" or "you're making me feel sad" when I tell her no, you have to clean up your blocks first, or it's time for a nap etc. I'm also hearing "I love you" a lot. I love you mom, I love you Toby, I love the Backyardigans (cartoon)
  

Hair Cuts (Toby's first!)

We did it. We took Toby to get his hair cut. It's been a long time coming, I was nervous. I have no idea about boys hair, I didn't know how it would look, what kind of cut suits a toddler boy and most of all I was afraid he'd look too grown up. And well, he does. But that's OK. I've come to terms with it. The event wasn't without trauma, for both kids. Willow clung to me when it was her turn, not wanting to sit down in the car. She didn't want the lady to cut her hair as she kept saying. Toby was OK with it at first, but disliked the combing and water spraying and scissors close to his ears. I don't blame him. I felt so bad when he was crying. It was hard to watch him and not be able to comfort him except with my words. So I took pictures. I'm so mean.

BEFORE

AFTER

THE BIG EVENT

THE RESULT

Merry Christmas

Well, Christmas is over. We had tons of fun, lots of visiting, dinners, presents. I get a fail on capturing the Christmas memories.... I barely touched my camera. I think so much photo work in the last couple of months turned me away from photographing my own kids. I'll have to make some New Years resolutions.

Willow was completely thrilled with her wooden doll house. She doesn't play with it very much- but will rearrange things a few times a day, setting the dolls up with a new activity. Her favorite thing for them to do is use the potty and watch TV. Toby didn't really understand why we were acting so silly around Christmas, but enjoyed saying "riiiippppp" as he opened his gifts.


On Christmas Eve Willow made a card for Santa. She decorated the front and inside wrote the gifts she would like (a new rubber ducky and a mommy doll). We left him a couple of Gingerbread Softies and cranberry juice. She insisted on leaving it all right in front of the tree, to make sure he saw it.

Here are the only Christmas photos I took, all on Christmas morning.

Willow enjoyed everyone else's gifts as much as her own.

Toby, just as happy playing with old toys.

Willow loves her new housecoat.

Love the Candy Cane Christmas jammies.

Toby got 3 teeth for Christmas! One molar just before, one on Christmas day and one a couple of days later. Still one to go, probably in the next week. And now just a few days left to get back on our schedule. Kids are staying up much too late and sleeping in (that part I don't mind). We'll all be in shock next week when we're back to work.

The Grinch

Why do people insist on bugging Willow because she's so shy? James gets this too, all the time. It's like he's a magnet for weird people. Anyway, Willow gets singled out all the time in places like the grocery store where people will stop and make strange faces at her, stare at her in weird ways just because she's so shy she doesn't look at them when they talk to her. If she doesn't want to talk to you so badly that she looks away, GET THE HINT! Leave her alone, don't continue to scare her and give her even more reason to be wary of strangers. Personally, I think her being shy of strangers at this age is a good thing. And it's not everyone, often she chats with other kids in carts and their moms. It's just the strange ones she avoids- smart girl.

This grinch was riding on a mini bike at the Santa Claus parade. Around and around,and around, and then he noticed me taking a photo of my kids and decided to jump in. Poor kids. They didn't like him at all.

So much

So much is happening. Mostly work. Working 2 days a week is strange, for some reason. I've never worked part time before- it seems like just another thing on my to-do list. And the list is long. As well as work, I'm trying to get my photography business off the ground. Right now that includes a lot of practicing ie: working for free/next to nothing for family & friends. I like doing it, I'm just wearing out. I haven't had a spare moment in weeks. As you can tell by the lack of posts on this blog.

The kids are great. Willow loves being at Stacey's while I work. So much that she bursts into tears and dramatically throws herself on the floor when I walk in the door. "Pleeeeaaasse let me stay 2 more minutes" she says. Toby is much happier to see me, starts crying and runs over to me. Grabs my hair and sucks his thumb. He likes it there too but likes to come home more. He has changed so much in the last few weeks, he walks, he runs, he talks a bit. Much more communication in the form of whines and grunts.

I've barely taken any photos of my own kids lately, this is probably the best one. I've been trying to take some Christmas shots but it just isn't working out. In a studio setting kids just don't listen to their own parents well. I've got a couple more chances to get a better one in the next day or so. If not, this is what's going out in our Christmas cards!

Reminiscing (Happy Birthday Toby)

Naturally, I’ve been spending a lot of time the last couple of days recollecting Toby’s birth day, and the days that led up to and proceeded it. I can’t believe it’s been a year! I keep thinking, “one year ago at this time I was......”. It was such a happy time, and a such a great birth that I keep going over and over the details I don’t want to forget. Many I’ve already forgotten, in one short year. I never get tired thinking about or talking about the birth of my babies, so I’m going to take this opportunity, Toby’s first birthday, to write my birth story as I remember it- one year later.

Early labour contractions began in the early morning of November 13th. I remember waking, around 3am with butterflies, and the thought “Am I really going to have my baby on the 13th? My bestest friends brother’s birthday?” It was a bit of a joke we had because Willow was born on this friends other brother’s birthday. I didn’t really think it would happen because I was still 5 days away from the due date.

I don’t remember anything else about the rest of that night. Mid-morning James, Willow and I went outside to clean up the leaves. It was a nice day, crisp and cool but the sun was warm. I was not comfortable enough to help with the leaves, and I couldn’t play with Willow because it caused too much pain, so I headed inside and made a huge pot of minestrone soup. I vividly remember making this soup, it was the ultimate nesting; I was preparing food that would sustain me in the coming days. The rest of the day was a blur, I’m sure I tried to get some sleep, to ‘rest’ like they tell you too. I called my doula at some point to let her know something was happening. Though, I still didn’t want to believe it. I was prepared for another overdue baby so I couldn’t believe it was happening early. For that reason I didn’t call any family or friends, I didn’t really want to get excited and think it was real.

After the house had settled down I called my midwife, around 8pm. I told her I thought it would be tonight. She gave me instructions, one being to get to bed! So I did, but had a hard time falling asleep because of the regular contractions. I finally fell into a light sleep around 10pm, and felt my waters break. I jumped into action, finished packing my hospital bag before calling my midwife, my mom, and my doula, in that order. My midwife told me to get to the hospital right away because I needed antibiotics to treat GBS. We waited for what felt like an hour for my mom to arrive to stay with Willow. We headed to the hospital, only stopping once to pee on the side of the road (thank goodness it was dark!).




We stayed in the hospital for just a couple of hours to get showered, centered. Carolyn wheeled me down to the front of the hospital where James was waiting in the car. We couldn’t wait to get home to introduce Willow to her baby brother. We officially decided on his name on the drive home. Toby. My mom and Willow met us at the front door, and I cried as Willow kept saying “ooooh baby. Ooooooohhhh baby”. She was so sweet and so tender with him right away. I curled up in my bed and tried to get some sleep after a long night. I was high on love and couldn’t sleep, but the rest was nice.


I had been pretty upset that I couldn’t have a homebirth because of a heart condition that I developed late in pregnancy - inappropriate tachycardia – a condition that I was advised would make it impossible for me to have a natural birth. I am so glad that the opposite happened, my heart behaved completely normally during the labour and delivery, and I was able to give birth without drugs and intervention.


Dear Toby,

That’s the story of the day you came into this world. You are the sweetest little dude with the greatest personality, sense of humour and way of being. You’re a mama’s boy but like to play on your own and be curious too. You’re a boy for sure, loving cars, remote controls, electronics. I wish you’d sleep a bit better- that’s my only complaint. We’re all so glad you’re here. Happy 1st birthday Toby.

Lotsa love,
Mama

The Sacred Balance

By David Suzuki. A really heavy read for me, bringing me into the "whoa" zone nightly. I love to read, but don't often get much time (thanks kids!). About 15 minutes before bed is all. So, this book has been with me for what seems like months.

There are 5 parts (OK, maybe more, but I would categorize it as 5). Air, Water, Earth and Fire are the first 4. He talks about the history of the planet, how things came to be, how incredibly long it took for things to be, and how short a time us humans have been on this planet (and what we're doing to it). All of these things take me to the zone. I have an 'out of body feeling' when I think about the universe, our galaxy, the sun, our amazing planet and the life that exists here.

I used to spend a lot of time reading this kind of non-fiction & thinking about environmental issues, my health. Since I've had kids I have a much harder time with it. The "Why are we here?" question has changed for me. It used to just boggle my mind, "why are we here? how did this happen? what are the chances?". I've just accepted these questions that have no answers. I know it's a miracle that life on this planet exists. Life is so good, so miraculous, so fleeting, that I need to enjoy every single minute. There is no room in my life for anger, being annoyed or frustrated, bored or sad. This is impossible of course because day to day life gets in the way of the big picture. But, I'm working on it. I'm happier. I care less about the small stuff. I am in the here and now, living life and loving my kids.

I am so happy that The Sacred Balance touched on LOVE. The last part relates our worldly experience of love and spirituality. How it is essential for our survival- it's not only cultural but biological too. Because of where I am in my life I could completely relate to the mother child love/bond. It helps the rest make sense. Becoming a mother has made my life make sense. And this book helped me to relate this life to the big picture. Whoa.

Love.

Working

Yesterday was my first day back at work. It was bittersweet - I got teary dropping the kids off in the morning (even though they are with my sister who has been watching them for weeks) but at the same time it was great to spend some time alone. I have an hour long commute that I used to hate- but now it's time for me to have my thoughts to myself, to listen to loud music, to get caught up with what's going on in the world. Once I get to work I can eat, sit, drink tea and pee at my leisure; it's almost luxurious. Sharing lunch and conversation with adults is pretty rad too.

I'll be working 2 days a week and I think it will be a good balance. Enough time at home to prepare home cooked meals, play with my kids, take them to events, keep a garden, and spend time outside. I'll also work on my photography business and try to keep the house clean. There are so many things I want to do that are important to me and I can't see myself being happy working 5 days a week and playing catch-up all weekend. I don't imagine my kids would like that arrangement very much either. A lot of people make it work, like it even- but it's just not for me. I've got too much to do!

Lets just hope the financials work out. We'll tighten our belts a bit more (is that even possible?). We're already very frugal so I'm going to have to get pretty creative I think! I'm open to money saving ideas if anyone has any!

One thing I'm thankful for is that I won't miss Toby's first steps, like I did Willow's. He was taking 8-10 steps at a time for almost a month and as of Saturday is finally walking around. Still a bit wobbly, but he's doing really well. I have yet to capture it on video, but here is an attempt. He obviously wasn't in the mood to show off.

- OK, no video. I've been trying to upload it for a couple of days but I keep getting an error. I'll work on the walking video and post it soon. -

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